"although avoidance and distractions allow temporary relief and false comfort ... when you do realize and are able to face the reality of the situation, how do you handle it? doesn't postponing the inevitable just make the inevitable that much harder to bear? in a sense doesn't avoidance just lead to more unintentional mistakes? =/ "



you make a good point that sometimes avoidance does lead to more unintentional mistakes. and i guess i'd never thought about it that way. but sometimes, when not all the facts are in, it's hard to confront something that may or may not be there. it's hard to see the future, as we all know, and so given a choice, i think most of us would rather wait and see. as opposed to speculate, and then make plans according to that speculation. when it comes to big decisions, we would rather not count on our fuzzy math, and so we try to ride things out. see where the road goes. and then face the inevitable if it appears. which it does, inevitably. ironic. anyhow, that's what i do. i'll rather distract myself and avoid things, than put actual computational brain power into trying to figure everything out. this is buttressed by having few to no regrets and believing in the idea that "everything works out."



it's kind of stupid i guess. because often, i know exactly where the road goes. but i'm just unwilling to do anything about it. or i'm possibly afraid of altering it, in case things might just work out perfectly by themselves. i like to be more laid back, and i've prided myself on knowing that i can create patience, even when in my mind (or heart), there is none. i'm not sure if this is a good thing to do. but it's worked so far. or not, depending on how one looks at it.



there does come a time however, when things need to be dragged out into the open. and some drawing and quartering needs to be done. it's just a matter of when. it's delicate. choosing between doing something too early, as opposed to too late. oftentimes, doing things too early is worse. because you might have created a problem that may never had been there in the first place. although i suppose, things will always rear their ugly heads, so one might as well deal with them as they come. immediately. as opposed to waiting around. then again, living in the moment is all great and good, but i think that time lends perspective and wisdom (much more of the former). and the longer you wait, the more information you have, thus allowing for a better decision. or confrontation.