my fervor for gym events was once my unique trait. when a friend changes, flips, what obligation is there to remain a friend? at what point are they no longer the person that you wanted to befriend but some other entity entirely? contrary to my relationship ideas, i'd say that friends should always be friends, even if one changes. after all, isn't that what friends are for? to give each other room to grow and shift? to evolve or mutate as they see fit? but are some people only willing to be friends with others if they remain a certain way? when does the "i don't even know who you are anymore" statement apply?



i think i've been watching too much sex and the city again. i'm ending everything with question marks. annoying.



what if what you liked about a person in the first place is entirely replaced by all the things that you detest? he/she used to love to hate freddie prinze jr with you but now he is a freddie prinze jr supporter. what can you do? i mean, can you even say that you would want to be friends with such a person? do you quietly remove yourself from their life and remain friends in name only? or do you accept that all that you connected on before is gone? i'm trying to think about people in my life that have completely flipped, so much so that i barely recognize them. i don't think it's happened dramatically yet. but as we grow and mature into our adult-hood, our life choices will take us further and further away from each other. the common bond of being students or fresh out of college will fade. will occupations, marriages, children, interests, lifestyles, slowly pull people apart?



will we eventually look upon our friends from this era of life as we do now on friends from elementary school? like we used to connect really deeply on subjects such as gi joe but now we no longer have that. at what point are you reminiscing more than creating? even now, you can sometimes have conversations with a supposed "good friend" that you just feel lost in. you look at a familiar (or not so familiar) face and wonder "who is this?" and then you have to remind yourself of how you got to be friends in the first place.



i look at my parents. who their friends are. my dad had his group of good college buddies but they weren't numerous or around very much. most of my parent's friends were made after they moved to this country, or specifically, san diego. at some point, will all these people that i know now just be lumped into this past friendship category known as "college friends?" i don't think so, but wouldn't that be interesting. to realize that everyone you know now, you won't be close to in ten years? would that change how much you care and interact with people now if you knew there was a time limit to your closeness? i'm not saying i want this of course, but it might happen.



if you meet random people now, and dismiss them as "oh i'll just meet them this one time, so why bother trying to get to know them", how would knowing that this person would only be in your life for six months affect you? yes, every person is a star that can impart faerie dust and change you, but realistically speaking, would you invest less in the short term stocks and pour more of your energy into the long term friends? don't most people do this anyway? invest in the people who they think will be around longer? or have been around longer?



i need a friends reality tv show with time travel as the gimmick. actually, i just need time travel made into reality. screw everything else.