a paradise for idiots. there are some people, whom you know, but you don't really know. i feel like this is a theme i've explored before. but oh well. anyway, there are people that you've had around for whatever length of time that you squarely call "friends" but in reality couldn't recite the most basic information about them. when asked about what you "know" about them, you are at a loss.



some of these types of people, you keep on that level on purpose. say maybe, a friend with whom you share only one activity. you don't need to be friends. not the type of friends anyway, who exchange in actual information or contact. over time however, you grow to be friends with them because you've partooken of that one activity so much and seen so much of them that you feel friendly. this is always nice.



but sometimes there are friends that you actually are friends with but know nothing about. like the friendly vibe outpaces the brain knowledge. and then you are left to go backwards in your relationship. from feeling friendly to getting to know them. usually it's the other way around, you get to know someone, then you feel friendly.



when this happens too much, i think some people start to think about "who are my friends? the people that i feel friendly with or the people that know me?" there's a case to be made for both. the people that know your basic facts obviously show an appreciation and an interest in you. but that can be so superficial. sometimes knowing things about someone, is not knowing them at all. on the other hand, don't you have to wonder about someone who is friendly yet doesn't know the first thing about you?



sometimes it can be shocking to learn that someone doesn't know your last name, or a trait about you that you thought was obvious. and you go "wow, they know nothing, yet we're friends. interesting." there is no point or conclusion to any of this. my mind is too fried to think of something to wrap this up. other than the idea of knowing a person versus knowing the information on a person. i guess i'll have to revisit this again at a later date.