some people call me the space cowboy, yeah…

some call me the gangster of love.

some people call me maurice.

cause i speak of the pompitous of love.



who do you talk to when you need relationship advice? and does their advice ever really help? or is it just reassuring to have another opinion? having been on the giving and receiving end of lots of relationship advice, i've decided it sucks to give out advice. all you can really think of saying is the generic, "it takes time, trust them, be careful, blah blah blah." everyone knows what to do but does it help to have someone remind you of it? in our more rational helpful moments, everyone says the same types of generic things. rarely is something super profound coming out of a friend's (or my) lips. this makes my case for trying to think up the answers to every relationship situation before you actually get into a relationship. this is of course, like trying to make strategic plans for war before actually engaging in war. pretty useless.



one other thing i've realized. friends are always right. they give you this basic generic advice but the reason is that it's right. in nearly every case, the friends always turn out right in their assessment of the relationship. when you get to the point where everyone you know is saying that you should bail, 90% of the time, they are seeing stuff that you are refusing to admit to. it's tough, because there is a 10% chance that the two of you in the relationship see what nobody else sees. but as well intentioned and beautiful as that is, listen to your friends. because they know what's going on. this doesn't mean listen to everyone of course. just listen to the people that you trust, and if they say bail.......draw the damn horse and holler "abort abort!'