i just wrinkle my brow and stare at your lips. you know those moments when you first meet someone? or better yet, hang out with someone semi-alone for the first time? and you're in that weird stage of comfortability but then slip into "gee, i just met this person." it's hard to fight. sometimes the *clicking* that happens when you meet new friends and kick it with people goes up and down so fast, one moment you're laughing your head off like old friends and the next moment you're back to silence and shadowed gazes and drumming your head for questions. luckily, the fact that there is even any clickage is good. although there are times when both parties realize that you'll probably never see each other so you just sit in silence rather than waste perfectly good thoughts and words. that's kind of awkward.



i hate it when you don't think you'll ever see a person again so you really make no effort to be talkative or social but then you end up seeing them all over the place. and then you're sort of stuck in this negative limbo space of "oh we've met before but last time i didn't really want to talk to you. at all." and really, the whole thing about being personable is asking questions. socialness isn't hard. it's just questions followed by more questions. the hard part is conveying interest. half the time when i meet people, i could really care less if they asked me questions, i just bombard them with a zillion questions so that they talk on and on. it's less draining that way i find. especially now. trying to meet and greet and "tell a little bit about yourself" is just not in the stars recently. but that doesn't mean i'm not interested. so if i ask you lots of questions, don't be offended. i just want to get past the whole "basic info" part of the friendship game and move onto the comfortable silences era.



people should really walk around with 411 and info cards to hand out instead of business cards. so you can look and see if anything interests you. this whole discovering as you go thing in conversation is sometimes overrated. gimme the good stuff up front and don't bore me. this is just my feeling on this subject for today. adherence to this idea varies by season, if not more often.