a blessing in the-skies. sometimes when you introduce friends to each other, or have two groups of people mix, the most interesting results emerge. some people will obviously get along. you know for a fact that so-and-so will love so-and-so. but then sometimes you are totally surprised because two people you thought would never get along, get along. this has happened with me a few times. it makes me question how well i know both parties. i mean, if i can't predict who might get along with whom, why even bother intermixing? if i can't play friendship god when can i play god period?



i have some friends whom i assume will like almost none of my friends. not because my other friends are unlikeable, but just because people are different. on the rare instances when i mix potentially incompatible people, i'm usually pleasantly surprised. heck, even the friend that i'm mixing is sometimes surprised. i like to ask my friends what they thought of everyone else, even based on initial impressions, quick observations, and general vibes. some of the answers i get back are stunning. some of the things that people can point out after a five minute conversation dig right into the root of who the other person is. "she seems to be very comfortable with who she is. i like her." and then i'll think, "why yes, she is very comfortable and accepting of herself. i've never heard anyone locate that fact so quickl



and then there are the times when you think people will get along but they clearly don't. no matter how much you try to explain "this person is really cool, really," they just don't see it. and something you thought was a sure thing becomes a no thing. back to the drawing board. i'm also highly sensitive to when people are in their elements. i mean, i'll try to make it so people meet other people in an element that is conducive to them getting along the best. like drunk people? i will take you out when people are drinking. afraid of big crowds of strangers? you will not be coming with me when i hang out with a group of ten. is this much forethought usually going through your heads when trying to figure out the recipe for mixing friends?



or is it just egotistical to think that you can control and influence these things? shouldn't people just mix and match as it naturally happens?