Having freedom in a relationship. That is my goal. To reach the point where you and your boy/girlfriend are not necessarily yoked together like some beasts of burden. We all have our conceived notions of a classical romance but in reality, few people get that. I don’t even want that. I want a life where I’m filled up by any number of things, not just by my girlfriend. It is most important for me to grasp myself, to have my own identity before I can be in a relationship. Many people are willing to give up anything when meeting a new and exciting person.



To have a great relationship requires that a person have a sense of self and clear ideas about the other person. Both of you need to be happy and fulfilled. In order to do that, both people must be able to define what it is that makes them happy. The idea to me of another person (especially one person) filling your “void” is ridiculous. If you have a void or something “missing”, look inward before you go hunting for that someone to “make all the pain go away”. All happiness is derived from being balanced within your own framework. I’m not saying relationships can’t be good for you but if a relationship is the only thing you need to keep you happy, you need to keep on looking.