hi ho, hi ho. it's off to work we go. people have these things called jobs. almost everyone has one at my age. in fact, most everyone has one at any age. i do not. i have no job. i haven't had a job in a long time (it could be said that i've never actually had a real job ever). a long time meaning either weeks, months or years. someone spoke of people walking different paths, of having their friend be walking down a different path than the one they were walking down. and how that might hinder their future friendship. could this be one of those different paths? the have jobs versus the have no jobs?



my mom tells me that at some point, if i stay the way i am, people will leave my life. because they will move on to marriages, kids, jobs, paid vacations, mortages and other big important things. and if i were to somehow magically maintain my current level of ineptitude, i would be left behind. now the question is, is this a valid fear on her part? should it be a valid fear on mine?



probably not because i would like to assume that friends stay friends regardless of how life is going. but i suppose realistically i can see situations where friends fall away. the friends that we had in middle school or high school were "so middle school, so high school." and their paths have taken them to a different place. and the friendships that remain are distant and based on memories. i can conceive of this happening now. after all, i am only twenty five and that is still young in the grand scheme of things.



we have a peer group for a reason right? to have something to compare contrast ourselves to? if we hang out with highly accomplished people all the time, might that drive you to be highly accomplished right? when people all around you start getting married off, there might be some thoughts of "boy, should i be thinking about marriage now?" our peer group is one of our own choosing but our age plays a big part of it. i feel like at twenty five i am neither young nor old. i still have a chance to hang onto youth while being old enough to take on certain responsibilities. twenty five is a weird age but is it closer to twenty or to thirty?



and are people really gonna stop being friends with me just because our paths differ? sometimes i wonder where moms get these ideas.