newsflash:

it ain’t the love you choose, it’s the life you live.



now that i think about it, it’s not the concept of loving yourself before you can love others that i sense people struggling with, it’s the inability or unwillingness or lack of awareness to do the things that will make you love yourself. simply put, many people don’t have the tools necessary to fulfill passions. man, if you don’t know how to or just don’t want to follow your dreams or fulfill your passions, i just don’t see how you could truly love yourself or expect others to love you. i’ve witnessed others who have not yet defined their passions. cool. fine. confused? unsure about the purpose of life? not sure about what you’re really good at? not sure you have a passion? no problemo. these are stepping stone questions important to life.



don’t want to define your passion? not trying to find what your passion is? problemo. i kind of have an issue with that. it’s the ultimate in mentally standing still. i believe the cliché to be true in this case, ‘if you’re not moving forward, you’re falling behind.’ i hear you saying, “i don’t know what my passions are and i don’t want to know.” for some reason i have a problem with people who’s actions or lack of actions reflect this statement. there may be something wrong with me since i’m the one having the problem. but let’s for a second pretend there’s not something wrong with me. let’s pretend there really is something wrong with you. that you could in fact experience daily joy and happiness and peace should you achieve in choosing to change yourself and express that choice through action. let’s pretend that. if this possibility is true, what could you first change about yourself that fits: define passion>fulfill/chase passion>feel good about yourself/love yourself>achieve daily joy and happiness and peace>be prepared mentally for a healthy/happy relationship.



it’s not what you got, it’s what you give. it ain’t the love you choose, it’s the life you live.



you have to be right with you before you can truly love anybody else or expect them to love you. “i am, i am, i’m cool with myself, i like who i am.” do you? do you really? or are you saying it because you think that’s the right answer? because i believe that if you really did love yourself, you could stand on the strength of your love and your passions and command to be seen and not beg to be noticed.



it ain’t the love you choose, it’s the life you live. start with passion.

-excerpted from human amoeba, june03-